Have you ever questioned why you and your spouse are SO different from each other in certain ways? If so, this may encourage you. Something clicked for me recently. I’ve always questioned why Justin and I are very different in one particular and important area of our lives: our role in The Church. Not that I’d want to change him, but I’ve asked God the purpose of the stark difference in our passion in that area.
I’m very passionate about The Church and while Justin loves God, he is different in his expression. Holy Spirit showed me that Justin is called to be a protector and to nurture our family. That is his role in the natural as well as in the Spiritual. So he is passionate about protection of and provision for people, especially his family.
Holy Spirit showed me that I wouldn’t be able to do what I’m called to do without the partnership and role that Justin provides me. I knew this on some level, but this realization gave me a whole new appreciation for Justin’s role in our family, marriage, and in The Church as a whole. I shared this with him recently and it was one of the most beautiful conversations in our relationship to date. It’s definitely in my top five. I believe it’s because Justin felt SEEN and VALIDATED in areas that I had either knowingly or unknowingly pressured him to be someone he isn’t.
Justin immediately turned to our oldest son who was with us, Noah, and began speaking so much life into him! He told him specific things he loved about him and how proud he was of him. Noah was beaming with joy in being seen and loved! I felt that God gave me a glimpse that afternoon into the flow of heaven into our families. It starts with honor. Honor who your spouse is, who God created them to be. Speak that to them. Make your support known with your words and actions. Speak words of life into your children. If you don’t know where to start, start by asking God who He created your spouse and children to be. What’s special about them? What does God love about them? Then agree with Heaven and release it through your words.